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“Family Matters” MCA-Tawasaw Seminar

Shaykh Alauddin ElBakri (unverified)

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uh we're trying to wrap up today
uh the whole
you know
supposed to be a five-week
episode
each episode about an hour
we did three hours
and then we stopped and now we're doing
the last two hours one hour before risha
and one hour after asia
what i attempt to do today just so that
if you
this is the first time that you attend
that you are able to
uh basically
um
you know you're able to
wrap up you know your head around the
material so i will do a review
and then after review move forward and
shut them out
the name of the class or the name of the
theme
topic is
family matters
and
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you know
it could be understood in two different
ways family matters any family issues
that we want to discuss and family
matters that family is important
it matters
more than anything else
this idea this family structure
is something that allah
did himself
right from
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brought
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created its mate and from these two he
brought so many men and women
so this explains
the
family structure
it's very interesting to
understand
or to know or to think that the first
relationship between two human beings
was a husband-wife relationship
it was not a brother sister father son
mother daughter
brother sister it was a husband and wife
first relationship between two human
beings was managed
so that they could establish a family
so allah started
the humanity with a family
which is now this becomes
his way of doing things is allah's way
also
and as we know this is
divine sunnahs
that you know which we call them the
laws of natures or the constants of laws
of nature
they run and they govern
nature
you know what we call the
physics and chemistry
and then there is
also
in terms of the human
uh
experience
like what happened what happens again
and again and again and again in the
history of mankind this is
uh
for example if you unite
you will win united we stand divided we
fall this is a sunnah
this is
allah put it in history and humanity
and
there is no way around it if a muslim
does it he would succeed if a non-muslim
does it would succeed if an atheist does
it it would succeed
it's just how things run in this world
and the fourth sunnah is
the prophet
so there is
like the prophet
said that allah said
o my servants i have made oppression
forbidden for me
and i made it forbidden for you so do
not oppress one another and i was
telling you i'm leaving by example
no one can make anything haram for me
between you so do not oppress one
another you are way much less than me
there is a million people and a million
things that can stop you i can stop you
so you better take it take my lead on
this system so this is
as we said the laws of physics math
chemistry biology this is how allah
created the universe and it runs on
these laws
there
how is work in the world of human beings
so allah asks us to study history again
and again and again in the quran
so
yes a bit louder with them so inshallah
you know
in his creation what allah wanted in his
creation is that the first relationship
between the first two human beings was
married
which really yeah
which it really is a problem
so
so
the first uh
yeah the first uh issue the first
relationship between the first two human
beings was managed
and tribes
so that you may know one another
and again it says you may know one
another through
match
so
if we may close these doors
that would be
really good
so
now
getting closer
you cannot put it higher
oh this is the max wow okay
uh maybe this i sometimes sense that
this is better
same
so
yeah
allah
we're talking about family matters
there is a surah in the quran named
after a family
the family of imran
very interesting
there's no other surah like that like
this
you know
but there's no surrounding
so there is something to be paid
attention here to just from the name of
this world
and then moreover
allah tells us you know the great honor
this family has
because where did allah line this family
up like where is the line
how they were added to which group of
people in allah
is a message to you and i that you don't
have to be a prophet or a messenger to
be honored and honorable in the eyes of
allah
that you can get in a great honor by not
without being a prophet or a messenger
they even said we don't know
let's go to the cave
to allah
let's see what allah let us do because
we don't know the answers
so but yet there is a surah name after
them
so again here is a for us right so the
question becomes
you know in general in general
the western society is an individual
driven society
me i and myself
it even shows like in the website
so it's always i me
myself you know even the word me is
different you know companies 23 and me
you know this and this me
uh so it's generally driven by
individual success right
um
in the
let's say near east middle east and far
east is usually the family success but
even the names of the companies
uh
you know
muhammad ahmad
or
the company of this
and his family his children his brothers
you know it's uh very interesting that
even in the names of the company you're
talking about name of the family so it's
a family driven what allah
wants to us to pay attention to is that
you
you should
aspire to have an honorable family
it should be a goal
you should try
and
the more you try
the better you are in the eyes of allah
you know
that's why we encourage like people who
are not married to men like there is a
hadith
it's not
confirmed it's alive but the worst of
the few who die has not met for example
so there is an energy
get married have children have family
right this was a big engagement all
young people whosoever can afford
marriage amongst them amongst you let
them get married there's an
encouragement is this idea that you're
gonna build a family legacy not an
individual legacy right and that's why
we find even the early believers
children right when we talk about saying
you know
there is
a family we see so many families
involved in the early days of islam in
supporting the dawah
even the family of the prophet saws
was the backbone of the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam okay
so this is just that introduction for us
to you know change the mindset right
change the mindset
um
maybe
look at here in the second i says
it's good good kids coming out of good
parents
you know and and they are all within
this good group of people
mention
you know their children because
no it's from the children of adam
ibrahim is from the children of glory
and ali imran is from the children of
ibraheem in a way
like these people kept on bringing
children that are
you know good children
we know we put him from
i know you're talking about
1850 bc
23
and he never lost the connection and he
told abu bakr the names of my parents
is correct
but i am from the children of this man
so look
the idea
is
it's it's a very interesting idea the
idea if you if you
were to take that and benefit from it
yourself
does any one of us think
i want to plan for my family for the
next hundred one thousand two thousand
years
you're gonna say well that's impossible
yeah it is impossible for you to plan
for their lives and this and this and
that but what you can do
if you intend if you have that intention
the power of the intention
then maybe your mom will accept that
intention and will make something great
and zero cost to you you don't have to
make billions to guarantee that your
great grandchildren have money
it's not about the money here it's not
about the
it's about the intention do you want a
family that
like really and this begs a question
from us parents
really why do you want to have children
and that
question and that
is answered in the story because allah
you know even that's a major issue like
why do you want to have children
the wife of imran was very clear
when she was very clear and sincere with
allah allah was very clear and sincere
meaning allah accepted her back to the
max
she asked allah for a boy
but the lady her husband is very old he
died while she was pregnant she's old
she's not going to have a chance to
raise this boy who's going to raise this
point you're asking for an exceptional
exceptional exceptional boy
if you give me this i will do that
so she said if you give me a child i
will give him back to you
she was so sincere and so concerned
and and last time you know this last
week and we explained
the geopolitical situation
the dream of the life of iran was
something to someone to save not only
her family but the nation
they were in such a mess the children of
israel that really they really needed
someone to to save them like it wasn't a
joke
you know
and
subhanallah
in our children because we are really in
a great mess and we need
someone to initiate some good work it's
a teamwork it's a nationwork it's not an
individual but
there is allah
in his
creation in the world of human beings
back again to the sunnah
allah's way of doing things in the world
human beings allah sends one just one
and that one changes life allah
so one initiates and ignites
and then it's supposed to become prophet
muhammad
one right
but he didn't do it all by himself but
things get ignited by one right
is one but people think
alone by himself there was a whole
generation with him
so the question is
you know
really really what do you really really
really want to have from your child like
if you give up
allah will give you backwards
i want my child to be just like good
like religious like
just praying
but i want you to be very successful
that's what you're going to get
but if you say i want you allah someone
read for you all
i'm going to give you what's in my womb
liberated from any conditions no strings
attached no other purposes
no other things
free and to be free all for you giving
the whole child for you this is i want i
want this child for you
of allah doesn't need you
but i wanted him for your cause
the clarity of the year
created
ripples that we feel it in today
so
allah says
the dua of his grandmother the wife of
imran
people lose that connection oh she asked
for a boy but she got a girl oh
she's not a girl no she got a boy
but later step number two
that connection is not made
we need to make that connection and that
is a much incentive for you know the
mothers right the mothers the mothers
make spam they make it or break it they
bring the family together or they break
their family that's why there is a great
responsibility on the mothers right give
them something
that joins people that brings people
together right
so
i
so there's two possibilities in the
world of pepsi which is very beautiful
commentary
and the male is not like
females who said that statement
there's the
did the wife of imran say that
or did allah say that
because it makes a huge difference she
said and the male is not like the female
it means i ask for a male right the
young female and the fear is not like a
female
whether
just to be relevant for today's
discussion
whether the wife of imran said it and
allah approved it and mentioned it in
his book or whether ambassador mentioned
his
is very relevant for today and the mail
is not like that email
can we make that clear please
because today that's not clear
okay
linguistically linguistically
in any language not only
there is something called the compared
and the compared with
so i'm comparing someone and i'm
comparing that one with someone else
so usually there's a compare and there's
that compared with
usually who's better the compared or
compared with
because i'm doing comparison here and
i'm saying
this person
is as good as this person so now this
person is the establishment is the
foundation and i'm comparing someone
with him
this statement is used to
attack the quran like people come and
say oh muslims uh
discrimination against women
and made chopin
says in the quran and the male is not
like a human linguistically if you take
a face value in this ayah the female is
better than them
why because she's not compared with
wales
but in the quran there is no competition
allah said i created the mail and the
female it doesn't matter it's this and
that and and and i shared with you
things that are very interesting
linguistically in the story of maryam
just for a lot to show that
a made-dominated society that they use
to consider women like a second
sub-human like second-class citizen
sub-human different species
an object of pleasure
so allah
because you're talking to a society that
is damaged at that time by these
notions about women that you know
they're good for nothing except for
pleasure
foreign
but
so this lady masha allah
really go again
i intend this may be for you i'm going
to name him a worshiper like
you know we have about
him in aramaic in in hebrew
with love
willingly with a choice satisfied
this is the word planet right
obedient and with love with passion
right
so
and she's scanning okay
what is going to destroy this girl and
her children she already
having a vision this girl is going to
have children
my god this lady is going
future but she has a vision
his grandmother
so so many things are happening so
immediately with allah
the lady
made another
whatever's in my womb
i will give it to you
allah said i accept it
she is not the prophet she's not the
messenger you can do that i can do that
i can say y'all i give my child to you
give him all the power and success to me
god me
lordly
do you have that dream the question is
do you want that some people don't want
that
plain and simple
very clearly they don't want that i
don't want my kid to be
i remember new security i counseled the
girl
she was crying
she's totally under threat from the
appearance she was born muslim
never been taught anything about islam
the first time she come across islam and
muslims is a new secret
she falls in love with the stuff she
stopped practicing she's going
all over the place she's totally
and she goes as far as wearing a child
also
this is islam this is me i was born her
name is a muslim but her parents didn't
want her here parents found out and oh
my god
you're gonna either take that hijab off
get out of the mca and never have a
muslim friend or we will cut all ties
and one funding for your school
and all ties with you
i mean
there's people who are very clear that
they don't want their kids to be good
muslims they don't want to even to be a
muslim just be muslim by name that's not
what we want you to be
this is the opposite here
because we're talking about family
matters and we're talking about kids and
raising kids and which is a word that i
don't like
raising i feel like raising cattle is
more appropriate i feel like
growing is like upbringing it i would
like to say growing with kids right
so
um yes we do feed them but that's not
the only thing they're not cattle
this is a coded word
that gives you a hand this is how you
reach children
in urdu and in arabic you have the word
nabat
correct me if i'm wrong do you have the
word
what does it mean
he grew her
like one of us
how do you grow a plant
you just say plant
grow up and give me fruit
you put your water you put fertilizer
you wait one year years three years oh
my allah we are now first oh it's still
you know first crop second proctor
you know first harvest second harvest
and a three after 10 15 years oh my god
a victory in
so that gives us a hint
when we raise our kids
and teach them and grow them i told
parents like um i said there's two
things that we have to be clear about
we don't want to raise our kids we want
to
discipline ourselves and our kids we
want to grow with our kids that's at
least how i see it because
i ask parents
tell me one thing
that you want your child to do
that you are exempted from it that you
don't have to do
i want you to study
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i want you to pray you have to pray you
have to tell the truth
that's very clear but what i'm trying to
say is the values the principles
what what is it that you're trying to
teach your child that doesn't apply to
you
it doesn't exist all applies to you so
it's we're not raising our children
we're growing with them
where
you see there's no college you go to
four years college would you like to go
to four years what four years
uh
marriage school
you go learn about marriage you go
through some residency
and then when you're done then you won't
get married there's no such thing
uh children's school you go through four
years they give you children you raise
them you experiment with them okay now
you know what you're doing governments
it's all on the spot so if it's all on
the spot while you're doing it you have
to do it to yourself
you have to say oh wow
i was wrong i shouldn't have done that
like you should do something
and when you stop yourself and you
display that self-discipline then what
happens then that becomes the strongest
biggest lesson for your kids right
number two
um when we talk
about the principle a general group
is that
when you
are trying to
teach your kids
there is what we call
short-term happiness versus long-term
happiness or short-term
satisfaction instant gratification
versus long-term
instant gratification the kid is doing
something wrong you get mad you get
upset you scream you read they stop
you're so good
you're so happy they stopped they listen
to you but on the long run they're not
gonna listen
so you have to ask yourself are you
trying to win today's battle or you're
trying to win the war
so if you're just trying to win today
you're going to be angry every day every
day every day every day every day
there will be no good times because you
constantly just want them not to bother
you and that becomes a problem there's a
chat cannot help but to bother you
really very humbling to me to know that
my my parents had to teach me how to
hold the spoon and put it in my mouth
do you know how much you teach
how to tie your shoes how to put socks
how to put your underwear how they train
you how to
so the idea here is
one principle grow with your child
number two
walter one better hand about that you're
growing a plant
you're not uh
you're not in a factory that you push
something in and then it comes out and
then you take it and package it and send
it this is not a factory it's not
instant
it's a long term you want to win the war
you don't want to win the battle today
sometimes you have to let the goal of
the battle today to win the war on the
long run term and here is the one
against the next against
against that company i mean what what
citizens option one there enough's
you have to be clear when you are
growing your children
who are the enemies on the horizon look
she took care of the nerfs
by saying what
i give this to you allah you discipline
number two she took care of shaytan
number three
i took care of the company
who raised her and she allah up in the
house of psychiatry a prophet so three
enemies taken care of then that's by
allah
the
shaytan also by allah
and the neighborhood and the
household is also by allah
all of this because the mother made an
intention
i was really touched last class when we
talked about insanity last weekend
a sister came and said you really
if something happens to us i have two
daughters who's gonna take care of them
who's gonna take it and i lost my son
but after i listen to the lecture
the wife of iran left the daughter
so i'm not worried
you know
you don't think about it and that's
exactly what happened the father died
the mother died and then
raised um
and now zachariah looks at this amazing
childhood he wishes for the child so
this just an introduction here and a
review of what we
talked about
again back again the power of intention
so
her lord accepted her in a good way and
grew her in a good way
and
fascinating child
i am old my wife is old
what can
in other words why did i stop making dua
yeah he didn't say that he said yo i've
never suffered because of my for you
me and this is here comes the name of
allah
many things in life you cannot
accomplish them
you cannot work for them even if you
work with them you will still not
accomplish them there is another way of
doing it especially when you cannot
accomplish it you say allah you gifted
to me
in arabic
is important gift
you have nothing to do with it and
that's why allah's name is
the gifter
so we usually
as believers we don't use this
name of allah
i have so much stress i cannot handle it
very much in time i'm feeling tired i
can't do it okay but there is a resource
that you haven't tapped into with this
allah
allah can give you something that you
never thought of allah can slow time for
you allah can give you stronger health
allah can give you better children allah
can give you a better job allah can give
you better income allah can give you a
better neighborhood better house better
friends why are you only counting on
yourself
why are you not thinking of allah
why are you not making dua
you see this
these people are very clear
good
about what i mean if you look here at
the translation oh allah virtuous
virtuous offspring
virtues what's important
the angel
foreign
this is 70 camels low it was not meant
to be memorized it was meant to be
written and preserved through writing
but
was one of the people who memorized it
with that gift you know and the original
no haram relationship this word
has been as a dispute but it means that
he will never get married but
majority said allah never praised the
prophet with not being married because
all the prophets ibrahim the greatest
grandfather muhammad saw yourself
in heaven they were all married but you
know the word
here is the one who is protected
protected from haram and again last
weekend i explained why because the
reality the context that yeshiya and
marijuana and isa were born in
was
san francisco on steroids
like san francisco
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and culture today which is considered
the most liberal city in america
is conservative
comparing to the reality of where yahiah
and the east
lived and raised and san francisco today
the most liberal city in america is
considered conservative
at the time of the prophet
but that's a whole other presentation
and i can prove it to you again and
again and again and again it's a very
fascinating presentation about the
reality of the prophet simple violence
that he was born
so
asura
is
doesn't happen
xena was very
rampant the greeks
and uh
the romans
used their kings their emperors used to
take pride and this is not the secret
that they are bisexual like they will
have no problem with men and women at
the same time and they used to take
pride that you know it's a real man like
that so allah
says
but what do we want to take from this
the clarity of saying
of what he wants here in the in the
beginning of surat maryam
he said
he said
i
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born
for bc it's very interesting he's
supposed to be born zero b you know a
year but he's actually not what the user
is born 44 years before he was supposed
to be born but anyway
you know so
is connecting between this child
and 1400 years before that
so
today
we are here
1400 years ago
if i say i want a child that is
you know
quran you know
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1450 years before him on average let's
say 1500 number years rounded number
do you see like these people have so
much connection back and so much vision
to the front
i think this is one of the
one of the
achilles game of muslims today
what is our situation bad okay we're
done
no we're not done we're not done
let's have an intention
that
from our children and grandchildren
something better will come
like
it was doom and gloom at the time
again i don't want to deviate from my
lecture but if i start explaining to you
the socio-economic political situation
and i'm talking from non-muslim
resources here
they're not just trying to bad-mouth
these people it's actually history
documented history
in it of our soul
i mean
to me i'm always thinking okay allah is
praising maryam for protecting their
private parts from haram like what's the
big deal
any average muslim girl doesn't do a
problem
it's not a big deal for you but once you
understand
the surrounding of maryam and how
it was so prevalent that jewish
community only
was
destroyed mortally and start copying the
romans in their actions cena was so
rampant that if there is a girl that is
not doing
allah praise them
like you have to understand
it's very interesting very interesting
and that's why i said
i i said and i still say
if there is a boy
or a girl
that go to public school
especially during middle school high
school and college and come out
and they have not done haram to me they
are from
specifically how they protected
themselves
because of how much harm was surrounding
them and it's not it's very easy to fall
into harm
you have your naps on the top of shrimp
comes and exploits your nest and then
you have temptation from the opposite
gender that they say that what are you
talking about
you should you should pleasure yourself
you should have you should experiment
you should let this is good for you this
is healthy let's just do it
imagine someone is talking to you like
that
you are a human at the end of the day
you know what does it take what did you
think it took a prophet
it
if it wasn't that he saw the proof from
his lord allah had to open like some
some miracle in the face of yusuf for
yusuf and that's a prophet
unless
and until and if it wasn't for that he
saw the proof of his lord so many
interpretations he said look at
and he saw the visa
he got so scared
that something some divine intervention
so what are we expecting from our sons
and daughters i don't know
to me it's mission impossible
now you have to send your kids to islam
it's good i don't know how to slice it
or dice it for you but if you're
expecting and please don't complain
yourself if you were born and raised
overseas and came here um but after 18
or after 25 your core has been already
established like the stuff will look
disgusting to you you will never know
but when a kid is born and raised on
here
again and again and again
in public school and then you expect
something to come out of it how how
they're not prophets and moreover
they're not even bad at the idea
and between two parentheses to you
but radhiya is open pleasing to you
pleasing to me is to everyone you
understand so
but
is making a different one similar in the
same direction of the wife of graham
from inherent knowledge the wisdom the
revelation from aliyah and then allah
gave him the name
i believe and this i am nobody and just
this person and perfection that there's
two names mentioned for saying
the quran one
is the commandment
with which allah created him
so with isa
the example of is like the example of
adam he said to him be and he was
the word yahya in arabic
could be a name
i mean i love that name so much i named
my son here so
here is a name or it could be a verb it
could be one a verb
comes from allah it comes as a demand
you shall live you shall exist because
the mother is barren the father is old
and that
yeah that command that allah used to
create this point allah didn't choose it
with anyone else
would mean uh no one has his name or
samia
no one has his level of righteousness
very interesting the name of yahya in
his life
is johanna
what's the name in his life
in arabic
what's the name of isa in his life
yahshua
joshua became isa
okay
yeshua
it has a meaning
the one who helps
to help the one who helps others that's
the name of joshua
johanna
is
the one who has tenderness and love
interestingly
very close word that is only used once
in the quran and only with one person
close to his name
if you
unapologetically
ibrahim abraham it could be however it
was pronounced at his time but now it
became arabic and that's all what it is
but the idea is the vision
the second thing here uh
we're talking about family matters we're
talking about parents children
uh how to grow
our children how to
you know and and maybe i'm going all
over the place but
you know it's
the whole idea is family matters and how
can we how can we benefit from these
you know i can sit down here and give
you a very typical lecture what i'm
actually doing in my mind is i'm
avoiding repeating everything that i
know you've already heard on youtube and
you already heard from other
so
i don't want to repeat to you what you
already know i'm trying to give you
something that you can add right because
there's no point in you just listening
to the same thing again and again and
again so you might find like gaps in my
presentation but that's that's okay
we're talking about family matters
growing with our children
for example from personal life
experience i have realized
that
our entire test in life is to come to
life
figure out what's wrong with you
fix it
and then meet allah allah will reward
you for fixing yourself
is
so i asked myself
okay so
everyone
when they are young at the beginning of
their life they think they're an angel
and they're perfect they're sober
right
and you cannot see what's wrong with you
because you can't see
you know you can if your eyes have uh
you know
the googly stuff and or or there is a
dirt on your cheek
or marker or sometimes
very embarrassingly a booger shows out
of your nose right and people are like
um
you cannot see it
so how in the world
you're gonna see what's wrong with you
two things are gonna happen with for you
in life they will expose you to you
number one
manage number two having kids
when you get married
you're gonna discover yourself for real
and when you have children and they
start copying you
you're gonna discover yourself again
and people when they
unfortunately the reaction of someone
who's not reading the quran is that
they blame the spouse or they blame the
child for being a reflection of them
and they walk away
the prophet
the believer is the better of his
brother and sister and that's why allah
put this dynamic what allah will happen
feedback advice they tell one another
improve one another choose nice words
given advice in a beautiful way choose
the best time the best place the best
words and the best intention this is
what's required for giving a sea help
with wisdom best time best place best
words best intention right if any one of
them goes wrong
is gonna
backfire and it's not gonna do the work
that it's supposed to do so the idea
here is how am i gonna know what's wrong
with me
number one marriage number two having
children so
that's why i say getting married and
having children
is the
major opportunity and almost the only
opportunity that you're gonna fix
yourself so as much as you're trying to
raise your children you actually need to
be raised yourself as much
but people
don't handle that there's nothing wrong
with me i'm not i don't know where my
kids are like that
i think it's it's not very rocket
science don't forget why your kids are
like that right they're only a
reflection of you and yourselves so
what's you know
it's just it's okay
sometimes you do your part and then your
kid does not make your choices that's
fine
that's fine like you know set up his
first son didn't have the same choice
but
he also was a you know saying
in his reality to have one out of four
go out on him and he did a good job
one thousand years nobody wants to
believe and you have four sons one goes
with his mother
and then three go with you on the ship
that's 75 success rate
i'll take that all day long
because at the end your child will make
choices but i'm talking about little
children when they are growing up so
here we find on the story of rockman
another dynamic that allah gives us we
have given luqman
okay wow so let's learn from gupta
allah in the next ayah says after he
said we've given command
be thankful to allah for whosoever is
thankful for allah this would be
thankful to himself which to me this is
one of the most important statements in
the quran whosoever is thankful to
only allah can say that and that totally
changes the personality of islam and the
dynamic of islam and
like the understanding of itself
people muslims are not excited about
practicing islam because they don't see
their own benefit in it what's for me in
it i get nothing okay i worship allah to
make allah happy
so that i later on can you know go to
jannah but right now i need to benefit
myself i cannot be religious i cannot be
straightforward i will lose i need you
know when i'm 40 50 60 i will turn back
to allah
why is someone thinking like that
because they're thinking
if they practice islam
that benefit goes to allah they're not
going to benefit from it and then they
go and tell themselves but anyway allah
doesn't need my worship so
i don't think allah would be too mad
or too upset with me or too unpleased
with me if i don't listen to him because
he doesn't need it i'm just going to act
like a foolish child and then after that
i will repent and be good
the whole thing is a stemming from a
deadly virus this virus says
islam is only for your affirmative and
it's only to make allah please
so you don't see your own personal
benefit in it
this is
you will never run out of energy and
excitement about your being
because every time you practice your
deal you know it's going to benefit you
people run out of energy and oh i tried
i mean i tried to be religious but it
didn't work no you didn't try you tried
because you were thinking it's about
someone else
you tried and you thought you were
benefiting your lord
allah told us in the quran allah
appreciates
but he doesn't benefit from him
flesh that's another human gonna eat the
flesh
has no use for the blood or flesh but
what allah appreciates from you is the
devil people confuse allah appreciates
that more from us
when allah needs it and if it's
it and i don't need it
then there is now a problem in your
relationship with islam i mean one of
the most
mathematical
uh mental statements in the quran that
really fascinates
it sounds to me right now we switch from
religion to physics
why because
allah knows that we know and we will
know that the shortest distance between
two points is a
straight line what allah wants to
that this
is the shortest distance between you and
success
so i'm gonna describe it
in
let's establish this
one
this is the shortest distance
understanding that fact creates any room
interest in islam that i want to focus
on to be successful like for me for me
and
you know you know how in the area like
i'm going to go start up my own company
because i'm going to make a lot of money
and i'm going to work 100 hours a week
because i'm going to make
you know that
drive
how come we don't have that drive with
our team because we don't see our
benefit
that to me is very important point when
it comes to having children what
conversation you know i'll do this
experiment with you
on the spot what's the name of this boy
huh
uh-huh
yeah
you're very smart
stand up here
i would love to be surprised today
inshallah
this is by the way my children answered
the same answer so please look okay
why do we pray to allah
because we're in
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why do we worship about it so we can um
be in the straight path of um
he was paying attention
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very good amazing give him a hand
come here
i don't
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us and i'm lecturing come here come here
where are your parents from
algeria
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i know algeria very well
why do we worship allah
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so
so first of all you can get world
rewards
second
because he's the all righty
very good
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you know i go to one elementary school
after another and i ask this question
and it's always the
same answer
and the answer is not a bad answer
but it's very very dangerous it tells
the whole story why do we worship allah
nothing
no connection i worship allah so that i
can succeed in this nation the
presentation of the quran was
discovered
seek the help of sodom seek the
for life difficulties life problems
seek the help of patience and salah
salah's the reward is here now today
this minute when you pray you get it
right away
so what happens we lose interest in
islam because it's always for
yeah
can you watch something
can you give me something
so we lose that motivation
so very interesting this statement to me
is very crucial
whosoever is thankful is only thankful
to himself
why do we worship allah
to please allah as um
a lot of the kids said like
especially the last one because we
needed to
worship allah because we needed because
we have to
get the charge
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different way of how we explain things
the way allah explains it in the quran
like we left the quran and this
explanation we and we went after the
explanation of some writers who came in
all history and their words became the
quran and the quran became out of the
picture so
makes two statements that are
mind-blowing number one
foreign
why do you worship allah because you
will benefit yourself why do you worship
allah because you need it when is it
going to benefit you right now
you need the help of what salah and
patience
we worship you because we need your help
and we need it now
this moment not after i die and go to
jannah
anyway anyway which is what the prophet
saws gave us a very vital piece of
understanding like it fixed this like it
goes inside you read it and fixes
something inside
he says none of you will go to jannah
with your actions
and none of you
would go to jannah because of your
actions like
we pray so that we go to jannah
wrong answer
according to this hadith
if you pray your entire life from the
minute you are born to the minute you
die you will still not go to jannah
because of your prayers
you will only go to jannah because of
allah's mercy why
because our story goes as such we come
to life that there's so
many blessings
sun moon earth day night valleys rivers
mountains seeds oceans fish birds lamb
beef this rice food this sweet salty
sour at the moment
in this message kidneys liver heart soul
brain
so
if you spend your entire life
worshipping allah
you will not be able
to catch up with what allah already has
given you
so if we come at the end of your life
and we take all of your worship and we
take all the blessings and we do
mathematical equations
your worship will always be always
less than not less than or equal less
than
the blessings of allah this was
explained very well in hadith someone
allah praised him he lived on an island
for 500 years on the day of judgment
would you like to go to jannah with your
needs or with my
he said yeah i worshiped you for 500
years on an island i did nothing else i
want to go to jannah and i want to feel
like i earned it with my object i want
to go as a reward of mine
okay bring the visa they brought the
scale put his
500 years on one side they put it on one
side put the blessings on his side only
on another side of the scale
with your mercy can i go to jail
okay now you've got the job with my
mercy
the whole understanding of islam that we
are passing on to our children
you see what's happening in the muslim
countries majority muslim countries
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why because to them islam will hit me
with my afirah i need something to help
me with my dunya i need to become
crooked so that i can make it in this
world and make it rich and make it big
so
thank you i will love allah i will pray
i will fast in ramadan i will pray and i
will cry
this is the mindset that we are
passing on to our children
but if we pass on to our children my
dear child
you need this now you need this year
this genuine business this total bonus
has nothing to do with what we do in
this world
total bonus from allah has nothing to do
with what you do if we live our entire
life saying that
look how embarrassing our situation is
if we worship our entire life saying
alhamdulillah will not be enough yet yet
allah says if you are thankful to me
i will let you have more
as if he didn't already give you enough
and as if you didn't already start with
the deficit we already start with
deficit meaning we didn't thank allah
enough we are already starting with the
minus just a little bit like you
borrowed a million dollar from someone
you're paying ten dollars you pay ten
dollars he said oh thank you for paying
me two thousand he's another twenty
dollars for you
but i'm still paying the debt you don't
have to gift me thank you no no oh you
said thank you i will give you some more
oh my god this is so good thank you oh
you said thank you i'm gonna give you
some more
the equation already right now is
mind-boggling
allah already gave you
so much you're not saying thank you
enough but when you say thank you he
gives it to you ten times more in this
world before the hereafter
so that's why
once you start understanding that your
self-interest is in islam in allah and
you pass on that to your children i
believe when this point is fixed
you will see a huge difference in the
muslim countries around the world
someone told me he was in a muslim
country i don't want to name it so there
are no bad mouth muslim countries it was
a muslim country the guy who came he's
paying the bill paying the bill paying
the bill from here from america he's
going to build electric he goes on
there's no electricity so he wants the
company the guy comes he says look i'm
paying everything the guy comes he's
shaved
and our guy is also shaved why because
our guy just finished and went back to
his country the guy who came from the
electric company is also went to hajj he
said why you shake he said i came from
head oh my god i give him
so if it's so good please fix this for
me of course i will fix it
but i have a small favor from you if you
go outside to my car in the back seat
you always find the box put something in
it and i will connect it to you today
this is true story he goes back he wants
to see what the heck is he talking about
he goes open and it's a box full of
money
so he comes back to him
you just came back from hajj he said oh
these are two different things this is
for my dunya and my children that's all
this is what's happening to us and we're
dying because of this
as an ummah we're dying because of this
this statement
and the next shocking statement is
because it's bad for you you're going to
end up oppressing yourself
when you worship others
you're going to become scattered you're
going to live in so much stress it's bad
for you it's a great injustice even
shirk is explained why it's bad in the
body when it doesn't need to be
explained
so if you take that understanding and we
are able to pass it on to our children
it will be really
a generation of change that we need i
need to stop here because
is
about to start and inshallah we will
continue after salah
inshallah
so
we will stop the
broadcasting for 10-15 minutes that we
wouldn't
continue

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Shaykh ElBakri

Published: January 1, 2022
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Length: 1:19:53
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Speaker evidence: Shaykh Alauddin ElBakri: description: "…Shaykh ElBakri" (surname/first-name only; not proof)
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