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The Parents of Gaza | Khutbah by Shaykh Alauddin ElBakri

Shaykh Alauddin ElBakri

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allahar
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allahar Allah
ill
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Sal
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allahar ill
in alhamdulillah
m
Allah
we thank Allah subhah waala we praise
him and we bear witness that there is no
God but one God
Allah and we bear witness that Muhammad
sallallahu alaihi wasallam is his final
prophet and messenger he conveyed the
message he showed us the straight path
that will lead us to success in this
world and in the Hereafter May Allah's
peace and blessings and salutations be
upon him and on his
family my dear brothers and sisters as
we are kicking in uh another school year
and as we are trying to take everything
in and process what's happening to
Muslims
worldwide with Gazza and festine being
the center point of the the Beating
Heart of the Muslim ummah and how this
tragedy is dragging and dragging and
dragging to break records uh in
historical context one of the things
that I have shared with you is if you
notice these one minute videos that come
out of RZA the amount of love and
attachment between fathers and their
children and children and their parents
you see not only the 5 years old is
crying hard for missing his mom or dad
because they were killed in a
bombardment in an barbaric Savage way
but also you will find the 15 years old
is also crying very hard very passionate
you find those people between 15 and 20
which is not a common scene that there
is this much love from Sons towards
their fathers and daughters towards
their fathers and towards their mothers
with the Western Hemisphere that we live
in there's we're barely trying to keep
the relationship between children and
parents it's almost uh a f uh in the
western experience that when a child
reaches to a teenage year that they will
be rebellious and they will be uh um um
you know giving their parents hard time
and that they will be the enemies and
that their the household has to go go
through hell within our mindset as
Muslims within our society as Muslims
this cannot be farther from the truth a
Muslim goes from a child that is not M
to a young man or woman that is M so the
way that Islam works with this age is
that it tells that young man or young
woman will come to adulthood you have
now the angels are writing your Deeds
you are as responsible as a full man or
woman so there is no room for you to act
like a fool or unintelligent or under
any excuse this puts a pressure and when
the society encouraged that young boy
and young girl to act like a young man
or young woman then the boy you will
find they gravitate towards even acting
older than their age it looks cute in
the beginning when a 10 years old 11 12
they're actually talking and acting like
a man that's very beautiful now you've
saved that child from so much pain and
suffering because we don't have in Islam
that there is child and then there is
something called teenage that is also
excused and then there is adulthood once
you hit puberty you are meaning reach
puberty means sane
which means
free which means responsible four words
that do that are like in a Four Corners
that hold you tight in the middle and
put you on the straight path very few
people know this where this word teenage
came from it actually came in the second
world war when the European countries
run out of men because so many men died
in the first world war the Second World
War I so they started saying okay it was
the draft age was 22 then it became 21
then it became 20 then it became they
tapped into the 19 and 18 so the the
argument was should teenagers be drafted
and enlisted and involved in the war or
not that was the the only excuse should
they be involved in the war or not
involved should be drafted and become a
sold and they reach to a level okay up
to 18
that excuse from the war became now an
excuse from life you can do whatever you
want but my dear brothers and sisters
what I wanted to share with you is
because Subhan Allah I shared with you
before Gazza within 25 miles by five
miles
1,350 Mass more it's a record breaker of
anywhere else on planet Earth that there
is that many mass within that small area
so so these children grew up with the
Quran the parents grew up with the Quran
specifically a whole generation the last
20 years they've been isolated from the
world so they be they grew up with
alquran Kim and you will find the way
alquran Kim deals with this issue the
relationship between parents and their
children it's a very different very
unique even from what we think as
Muslims what we think the Quran says
about the relationship ship between
parents and children is actually not
true the Quran is way much more
sophisticated than we think it is way
much more sophisticated than our
statements what is the most common
statement that a
father uses to assert his authority in
the house or the mother what do we tell
our children Allah says in the Quran you
should listen to your parents Allah says
in the Quran you should obey
parents so here I am a sheh in front of
you I ask you can you please show me
where it says that in the
Quran because it
doesn't because it's more
sophisticated it says it in a
sophisticated way it says it in an in
inclusive way it says it in a way that
will not ruin the relationship it says
it as it's implicit but it's not
emphasized because Allah wants us to
have the best relationship with our
children so he guides us through a set
of words of what to do with our parents
and what not to do and exactly the the
beautiful thing that exactly what Allah
is asking you you the parents you have
little children you also have a parent
exactly the same set of commands of dos
and don'ts that you should apply with
your parents who are the grandparents of
your children your children should apply
with you so you are in training
how do you become the best father is by
you applying becoming the best son and
the best daughter even though now you're
old and married that's how you apply it
you you experiment on yourself first
then you say Ah that's how it's done by
applying this aat in
alquran just so that I close this
chapter very quickly what Allah said in
the Quran that if your
parents fight you to commit your and
leave Islam that was something very
common with the first generation of
sahaba when they became Muslims their
parents told them you either revert from
Islam go back to kuur or I will kill
myself
like he was known for how beautiful he
was with his mother in the city of Mecca
and she stopped eating and drinking so
he came to his mother and said mother
you know that in the entire city of
Mecca no one is better to his mother
than me to you and people say that you
know that but my mother I'm going to say
something to you if you have 100s and
you died one naps by one naps I will not
leave
Islam but I will be I will stay to be
the best son to his mother like I am but
give up on this demand so she ate and
drank because she stopped eating
drinking and taking a shower he said if
you have 100 NS I will not if you die
100 times but side by side what was
referring he was referring to an Ayah in
the Quran in this Ayah where Allah
say if your parents fight you to
commit then do not obey
them in the same breath the very next
word and befriend them with befriend
them with kindness in this world in one
statement do not obey them but befriend
them imagine how sophisticated is the
Quran do not obey them in the matter of
sh but be a good friend to
them very high
standard now this word do not obey them
implicitly what is it saying saying if
your parents are asking you for anything
else that is not shik and that is not
kufur and that is
not in disobeying Allah then it's
implicit that you will obey them the
fact that Allah said do not obey them
when it comes to sh it means obey them
in anything else but Allah didn't say in
the Quran obey your parents and
everything else because if Allah said
that it would have ruined the
relationship between us and our parents
and us and our children so what did
Allah say very interesting Allah uses
words and is a summary each one of these
words if we Trace its meaning in the
Quran and in the Sunnah it's a lecture
by itself so please excuse me for not
expanding I will just share the words
with you
one Allah says we have recommended the
child the son or the daughter to be good
to
them this
word has so many meanings in it they're
all beautiful you only
make to someone that you love so the the
the will that the father leaves for his
children and the
Last Wish of the father or the mother
when they are on their death bed to
their children is called was you only do
was to someone that you love and you
take care of Wha in Arabic means
guardianship who's the was of this child
oh that's his was maybe his father died
his uncle is the was which means you're
taking care of someone and you love that
person that you are taking care of so
look at the Dynamics when Allah in the
Quran approach the relationship between
parents and children look at how Allah
flipped the model our model the way we
talk you should listen to your
parents the model of the Quran it
flipped it upside down you should take
care of your parents now I'm going to
tell you to your NPS to your human NS
which one is more beloved to you you
should do this or please take care of
this completely flip the Dynamics
we recommended the human to be good and
take care of his par of his parents a so
now the dynamic is just flipped instead
of you telling your child you should
listen to me now you're saying what
please Baba take care of me I'm your
father man y spoil me time look the the
conversation completely flips when you
follow the Quran Dynamic
changes what
in one a and use open your imagination
the wordan is a word in the Quran that
refers to three meanings they're all
true number one when you do something
good it's called when you do something
good if you do something beautiful
something you beautify something it's
called isan and when you perfect
something you do it with perfection to
the best of your it's called three
meanings for the wordan in the Quran so
look what Allah is asking for the
Dynamics what Allah is asking of us
towards our parents and what's asking of
our children towards us usean do
something good do it beautiful and do it
with perfection three meanings for the
wordan third word in the Quran how does
Allah set the Dynamics say thank you
Allah says in the Quran this is
in be thankful to me to Allah and to
your
parents the of they said this is one of
the greatest statements in the Quran why
because nowhere else in the Quran Allah
said for the human do something do this
for me and there's no end in the Quran
after Allah except
here be thankful to me and your parents
this and your parents in the language of
the Quran it gives you the Goosebumps
the MU like oh what's going on
here look what what Allah is setting the
Dynamics be thankful yeah say thank
youa for the way you raised me for the
way you taught me for the way you dealt
with me you know this does so much to
the heart of the father and the mother
more than you will ever think what does
Allah use another word in the Quran look
this is as if we always like to refer to
Stanford and you see s and God knows the
UC system but go back to ALR what does
Allah demand from that child towards the
parents instead of listen to your
parents as if a slave master
relationship what does Allah
say befriend your parents listen listen
this was revealed, 1400 years ago in the
desert of Arabia where they didn't know
this stuff even here in America they're
just reason oh become the there should
be friendship but this friendship be
careful it's not friendship of equals
it's a friendship of a son towards his
father a daughter towards her yeah
children with parents because there is
something that I keep on having to
walking many parents it's a bit funny I
have to walk many parents to cross this
bridge they cry and then I have to hold
their hands and help them what the
father and the mother oh I wanted to be
the best friend of my child
no please don't do that that's the worst
idea you cannot be the best you cannot
and and this is where it becomes
confusing and you're thinking you are
mashallah smart you want to become the
best friend but you want to tell your
child what to do and what not to do the
best friend your best friend doesn't
tell you what to do and what not to do
if they do that they will not be your
best friend so what you need to
understand this friendship is that Allah
is referring to is a friendship with
respect not friendship of equal for
example Allah
says Allah is the of and Allah
says so the m is the of the and Allah is
the of the woman is this here the same
no the this friendship between a slave
and a master between us and
Allah and between equals between the
Believers so it's the same word but it's
not implemented the same way so please
take out of your dictionary that you
want to be the best friend of your child
that will ruin the relationship and that
will load the relationship more than it
is but the child what does Allah command
not the father to tell his oh I am your
best friend no the Son and the daughter
to befriend the parents talk to them
have a conversation how are you my dear
brothers and sisters I really need you
to examine your home you come home do
you have a conversation with your
children how are you what's going on
what happened today in school what's
going up and they ask you and you answer
them if you don't have this conversation
then you have defined your job as a
parent I'm going to feed you I'm going
to clothe you I'm going to give you
shelter please shut up and get good
grades what kind of relationship is that
but the yet that's what's predominant in
most of the homes because the parents
don't know how to talk to their children
and as a result the children don't know
how to talk to the parents what did
Allah
say in this and the other word
is what is the other word that Allah Us
in the
Quran speak to your parents in an
honorable way it's okay the father can
be upset the mother can be upset that's
okay but you cannot be upset when your
father is
upset because you're not equal let him
have his moment let your mom have her
moment after that you can come back and
explain there is no place for argument
and it never works if the father States
their the parents State their opinion
and you try to convince them at the same
moment I'm telling you right now you
failed on start you failed on
departure let the parents have their
moment of upsetting being upset or angry
let them say with this call them
down I listen to you then come back when
they are calm down and say but you know
I want to talk to you about this they
will have the longest conversation with
you be smart about it there's no you're
saying this and I'm saying that and it's
either my opinion or your opinion you
need to teach your child teach your
child hey when you see me upset don't
talk to me right now don't try to
convince me let me come down then come
back and talk to me nicely and by the
way when you come to bring with you a
cup of
tea so that we can have a nice
conversation my dear brothers and
sisters these commands of the the Quran
if you trace them what Allah
says lower the wing of Mercy to your
parents as if you are an angel and you
have a wing lower the wing of mercy be
humble and merciful to your parents tell
your child share with your child do you
know that I barely sleep and I work do
you know you're upset with me to tell
you pick up the garbage do you know what
my boss tells me at work do you know how
long I work share with you you but don't
share while you're upset tell them this
is my work day this so that your child
when they're sitting down said oh my god
I didn't even know do you know more of
most of your children don't know what
you're sacrificing for them the problem
is your problem you never share with
them again a cup of tea mashallah we
have the best tea in the world you go to
Iraq the best tea festine the best tea
Egypt the best tea Pakistan India
Bangladesh Afghanistan the best let the
tea do its
work well you can raise your child over
a cup of
tea have a conversation let's learn I'm
telling you you think it's a joke look
at the conversation between Yousef and
his father yob oh my father I saw
yesterday a dream when was the last time
your child came to you and said my
father I saw a dream do you know what's
the interpretation look at the closeness
look at the conversation they're having
a conversation they're talking about
dreams Beyond reality so that's why my
dear brother brothers and sisters you
know the time of theba is a short time
but we try to remind ourselves with
these quranic words
humbleness
and can you believe
two youth
one and one
is ISA the one who resurrects the Dead
the one who heals the leopard instantly
the one who heals the one who's born
blind
how does Allah
praise how does speak about
himself one of the highlights OFA that
he's good to his
mother that goes with large Miracles one
of what
is the word that needs a whole lecture
to trace the word b in Quran and Sunnah
and apply it so these are just headlines
and the last
one make Dua for your parents my dear
brothers and sisters I just shared with
you a list of the Dos I didn't share
with you the list of the Dons because
there is no time next or next event may
Allah put that beautiful relationship
between us and our sons and daughters
and between us and our mothers and
fathers may Allah make us from
my dear brothers sisters I do believe
with all of my heart and this is
something I tried to apply my whole life
the part of my job as a father for my
children not only to provide them with
food shelter home
but to provide them with a Masid with an
Islamic Center I can't raise my children
all of you who know me slightly and know
my children all of you have done me a
favor with the way with being role
models for my children my sons and
daughters I'm talking to the brothers
and my sisters we have we are
all I have done you a favor you have
done me a favor every man and woman just
by showing up to the Masjid imagine if I
bring my son or daughter and they find
in Salat Only One
S how depressing is that by you becoming
the Masjid you don't know how much favor
you're doing to the Believers and how
much favor the Believers are doing for
you and that's what Allah expects from
us but in order to have that we have to
have a center like MCA one of the
largest in my judgment it is the largest
uh actually from square footage point of
view the largest Islamic Center in the
United States is sincerely yours where
you're sitting down and therefore
alhamdulillah we're moving on to a new
building where it will be a place for
Granada school to accept more children
so that we don't have somewhere between
200 and 400 on the waiting list so that
we can have a youth center for our sons
and daughters who don't go to Granada to
Islamic school maybe they go to public
school but we need to have them after
school program and on the weekend so
that we don't lose them it's just like
you provide a Shel for your children you
should provide a Masid it's the shelter
for
their in one of the suras of the Quran
Allah defined himself as the Lord of
this Masjid the Lord of this house
imagine
Allah Allah is the of this bait and the
r of the mca2 and mca3 and that's why
inshallah by coming Saturday a week from
tomorrow there's the fundraising I
invite you to buy the tickets to come
and to donate again it's one or two or
three million to finish which means if
every income earner pays
$1,000 we have two 3,000 income earners
that's it we're going to close no need
even for a fundraising so we can do it
and we owe this to ourselves we owe this
to our children and Grand children
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allahar
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alhamdulillah
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What makes the children and parents of Gaza different? How have they been able to withstand over 10 months of genocide? In this khutbah, we explore the role the Quran played in the lives of the people of Gaza and our duty towards our brothers and sisters. Visit www.tawasaw.org for more videos, events, and programming …

Published: September 1, 2024
Recorded: Not stated by the source
Length: 30:30
Source: Tawasaw Institute (opens YouTube in a new tab)Tawasaw Institute upload
Speaker evidence: Shaykh Alauddin ElBakri: title: "…ts of Gaza | Khutbah by Shaykh Alauddin ElBakri"
Transcript: YouTube captions (auto generated), EN, version 1Not yet reviewed by an editor; retrieved October 14, 2026.

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Community & EventsCatalog keyword rule: keyword "event"
Family & ParentingCatalog keyword rule: keyword "Parent"
KhutbahCatalog keyword rule: keyword "Khutbah"
Palestine / Al-AqsaCatalog keyword rule: keyword "Gaza"
QuranCatalog keyword rule: keyword "Quran"
Gratitude (Shukr)Transcript mentions a related term at 3:12 and in 2 more passages
Mercy (Rahmah)Transcript mentions a related term at 22:17